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Having your student home over the summer can be a source of joy and stress.Ìý

It’s important to remember that you and your student are both making this transition. They are likely used to being more independent and it may take time for you both to figure out how to live together again over the summer.ÌýÌý

If your student is planning to spend time at home this summer, here are some tips you can use to help them make a smooth transition.

Take time to talk with your student about their life at CU. Try to understand the level of independence they’re used to and what skills they’ve been building on campus.Ìý

Keep in mind that your student’s expectations for their time at home may differ from your own. For instance, they may not know that you expect them to follow a curfew, help with chores or take on certain responsibilities. If you have differing perspectives, try to come to an agreement or compromise when possible. Talking about and working through disagreements can help you and your student avoid unwanted conflict when they arrive. It can also be helpful to think through and discuss what types of boundaries or expectations are necessary, versus ones that you’d prefer to have in place.Ìý

Maintaining open communication with each other can also stave off conflict. Remember that they may not be in the habit of keeping others updated on their plans. Let your student know if you’d like to hear about what they have planned while they’re home. For instance, you may ask them how long they plan to stay, how much time they plan to spend with family or friends and if there are any specific events or activities they plan to attend. You should also be open about your own plans and let your student know in advance if they’ll be expected to attend family gatherings, events or other activities.ÌýÌý

This summer you may find yourself talking with your student about their grades, major, relationships, substance use, differences in points of view and other potentially difficult topics. If these types of topics come up, it’s best to be prepared in advance.Ìý

Check out these tips to learn how to make the most of tough conversations.Ìý

Transitioning home may be difficult for some students, especially if their responsibilities, routines and schedules have changed significantly since leaving campus. You can help set them up for success by asking them about what daily routines might be helpful.Ìý

Here are some questions you can ask them:Ìý

• How can I support you in developing some routines that help you feel balanced?
• How much sleep do you need and what do you want your sleep schedule to look like this summer?
• Do you have a schedule you are building for your summer?
• What activities do you want to do each day?
• Who do you want to hang out with? What family or friends would you like to spend time with?
• Are you able to get enough alone time?
• What would you like to do this summer? Are there any special things we can do together while you are home?ÌýÌýÌý

If your student is struggling over the summer, there are resources available to help. Be sure to check out all our Health and Wellness summer services.ÌýÌý

• Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)Ìý
  Students in Colorado can get support with general mental health concerns, anxiety, depression and more.ÌýÌý

• AcademicLiveCareÌý
  All students can access free virtual counseling, psychiatry, nutrition and medical appointments through AcademicLiveCare using their CU IdentiKey.Ìý

• Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)Ìý
  Students can receive free and confidential support, consultations, advocacy and short-term trauma counseling if they have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-disrupting event. OVA also offers support for families, friends and others.Ìý